Listen to “Wakeup Call: Civic Discourse Shouldn’t be Fueled in Anger” on Spreaker.
Debate is enjoyable. It advances issues, brings new ideas to light, and serves as a civic good. But — there’s always a “but” — when debate shifts from those virtues to arguments rooted in anger, when it becomes more about defeating someone than seeking a good outcome, it turns from good to bad.
Visiting a church Sunday morning to attend a baptism, the pastor delivered a metaphorical frying pan to the side of the head — and it was past due. Upfront, you needn’t be religious or spiritual to see the virtue in this text.
The key verse was James 1:19: “Understand this, my beloved brothers and sisters. Let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger.” In other words, be a careful listener, a thoughtful speaker, and a patient, forgiving person.
That prompted a moment of reflection that led to an “ouch” moment.
Day in and day out on Talkline and social media, debate over one question or another unfolds. Opinions — grounded in fact, at least conceptually — are readily offered. But too often, those responses come with the aim of proving someone wrong, of winning the argument. Too often they come without fully contemplating another’s words, and that can lead to anger.
It may be disguised in professional language and a thin attempt at civility, but it’s still anger. And even if others don’t see it, it’s there.
For avoidance of doubt, I’m talking squarely about me. My failure. My pride. My inability to be better.
Yes, it’s human instinct, but that shouldn’t be an excuse when better is possible.
Listening Sunday, internal monologue wrestled with that reality. Wouldn’t it be better if civil discourse remained civil, not a contest of right versus wrong? What if listening came first, with compassion for differing viewpoints? That might strengthen relationships and raise the level of care we show one another.
A bit of shame settled in at this point. A necessary reckoning that helps push past ego toward something better.
This struggle is likely not unique to my experience. Imagine what could be accomplished if the teachings of James guided our political discourse. The potential for betterment could be limitless.
So, as the issues of the day are discussed, feel free to hold this standard close. Offer reminders to listen first, speak carefully, and avoid anger — wrongfully aimed passion — when advocating any position. Call me out!
Winning a point isn’t worth losing sight of our shared humanity or the care we should have for one another.
If this is a familiar struggle, consider joining in the effort to do better. There’s room for everyone, and progress comes faster together.
Advocate strongly. Be steadfast in your beliefs. Defend them fiercely. Conviction is valuable. But carry the lessons of James along the way.
Be well.